He's Just Not That Into You Author at Raleigh's Charlie Goodnights

"He's Just Not That Into You" Author at Raleigh's Comedy Club

This past weekend, there was a special show at Goodnights Comedy Club. Have you been to Raleigh’s hit comedy club? It’s a really fun time, and you’re served popcorn and drinks during the show.  You can also have dinner in their upstairs restaurant before the show. And of course, they have some really great celebrity comedians perform. We’ve seen three comedians there. Bob “I’m a people person – bay-bee” Zany was the funniest…well, that was before the performance we went to yesterday with hilarious Greg Behrendt…

Does his name sound familiar? I had to double check but yes, I spelled his last name right. If you say his name to a man, he’s like “WHO?” If you say his name to a woman, she immediately recognizes, it’s the “he’s just not that into you” dude that was on Oprah for his brilliant New York Times best seller book. Here’s a photo of Greg and me if you need a photo reference. He’s winking at my husband taking the photo because he was one of the 9 brave men (dragged by a woman) in the audience. And no, don’t confuse Greg for Ty Pennington from ABC’s ‘Extreme Home Makeover’. Same spikey hair though.

Greg has written another book on breakups, had his own TV show for awhile and did a cameo on the ‘He’s Just Not that into You’ movie out in theaters now. The movie did $27.5 million on opening weekend. But whose keeping track? …Anyway, Greg is also a comedian. He’s on his live comedy circuit… and in case you didn’t know, whether you live in Raleigh or not, Raleigh just ain’t that small time! It’s on the map for celebs to come to town. This one celeb happens to be a real down -to-earth guy.

Greg is the type of guy that any guy can relate to, and any girl can get good dating advice from. But Ladies who are wired into his best seller book, know that it’s not usually the dating advice they want to hear ‘cause it ends with those last famous 6 words…’he’s just not that into you.’ Harsh, but too often the truth. So instead of wasting 6 months outta the 3 they were dating, he makes it very simple for women by giving his common sensical and rather simple answer…that’s just so typical of a guy. His advice usually leaves women with a deafening silence because they think their situation is always way different and much more complicated than the short and sweet, neatly packaged advice he has for them. And the girls feel the need in their explanation to follow each statement with “But, but, but… “. With Greg, there is no “but”.

I mean some of the excuses if we listen to ourselves or our girl friends talk, are so bogus… like “he lost my number” or he’s just been through a major breakup and needs some space, or he’s the busiest guy in the world…all bad excuses. And all the while, women’s intuition know that men will hunt them down if they wanted to. Highlight the “wanted to” part. It’s the few strong girls that think ‘It’s their loss. See ya, wouldn’t wanna be ya!’

You women, have you ever dated a man who claimed to be soooo busy and then disappeared one day from your life? Oh yeah, meanwhile he still has time to update his Facebook profile and write on another friend’s wall…but not yours. Well…Greg ends the unsolved mystery man and saves women months of agonizing over play-by-play of the relationship, and what could’ve gone wrong. And his blunt responses usually boils down to his all too famous tagline, “he’s just not that into you”, in one form or another.

Question: does an ending relationship with no formal end have a happy ending?.. 99.9% of the time not. It just ends and the reason is often hidden deep in the answer we know but don’t want to hear. But…it’s less hurtful to concoct all kinds of fictitious stories in our heads unless and until we hear the absolute truth from the man that broke our heart (btw, which doesn’t happen)… or else from the next best source…another guy.

Trust me I know from being a woman who was once was in the dating scene…our shopping and chatty species is just wired to look for closure when a relationship doesn’t turn out into a fairytale ending or just an ending we understand. Closure…what is that? The truth of why things didn’t work out would shatter some women, but the lies and the “but” stories we play in our heads keep going on until we wake up one day long after the unofficial end with a new found purpose, or in a new relationship.

Women get it when Greg tell them because it’s coming from another one of them …another guy. And he’s become America’s guy to ask these questions to. Although he’ll tell you, most the answers are in his book. You don’t even have to read between the lines. It’s just so cut and dry simple…which is baffling to women. We’re stumped that a man makes his world uncomplicated (notice I didn’t say men are uncomplicated).

So in all fairness (because men get dumped too)… I’m waiting for the day when a woman steps out with a potent relationship mind eraser “pill” for dumped men…because men don’t read relationship books. Sorry… beyond my scope here…not in my bag of tricks. I’m far removed from the dating scene…but I could mention it to a few of my single girl friends.

Meeting Greg Behrendt at Goodnights

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